Monday, November 5, 2012

The Closest Thing to a Political Post You'll Ever See From Me

I met a friend for lunch yesterday.  By lunch I mean we had bloody mary's.  And by we I mean me.  He doesn't drink.  So I had one for him too.  Didn't want him to feel left out. 

Oddly enough, I ran into E1 there.  Remember him?  It went a little something like this:

I got up to get my second bloody mary.  In typical fashion, I was staring at my feet on my way back to our booth.  I happened to look up and noticed, sitting in the booth right next to ours, was E1.

E1: "Hi Dawn."

Me: Wide eyed deer in headlights panic stricken response of "Hi". 

I don't like to come across as overly verbose.  It tends to overwhelm people. 

I stare at him for a second.

I turn and stare at his date for an equal second. 

I turn my entire body in a stiff robotic way and continue on to my booth where I sit down and mentally chastise myself for not coming up with something witty, intelligent or at the very least, socially acceptable to say.

I felt like the bottom of my stomach had dropped out.  A few minutes later they both got up and left the bar.  Without saying goodbye!  Some people have absolutely no sense of couth.

Anyhow E1, congrats on your downgrade.  She's one hell of a 5.

How weird.  Insulting someone who will never read this post doesn't really make me feel any better.  *shrug*

Moving on.  This post isn't about my pathetic insecurities.  It's about others pathetic insecurities.

With the last day of the election coming up, my friend and I inevitably started discussing politics and what people stand for, believe in, and believe what is worth fighting for.

My friend is gay.   

I believe in the usual run-of-the-mill Christian beliefs.  I don't understand being gay.  And although someone called me a "fat dyke" from the window of a passing car the other day, I can't really say I've been persecuted for who I am.  Ever.

My friend has not only been persecuted for it, he's been assaulted.  As in, attacked outside of a club in downtown Salt Lake and beaten over the head with chunks of asphalt. 

As he was showing me the pictures of his bloody scalp and stitches, I couldn't keep my eyes from welling up and chills ran up and down my body creating goose bumps all over my arms. 

I don't understand being gay.  I don't know if people are born gay or if it's a lifestyle choice they make.  Either way, it's who they are, and for them to be attacked out of blind, ignorant hate, is unfathomable.  This sort of hate scares the mother hugging crap out of me.  This is the sort of illogical, unthinking hate that would have someone burning me to death simply because I have red hair.  Oh.  Wait.  That's been done.  Luckily our civilization has advanced well beyond those barbaric days.  Thank God.

I don't understand being gay but I understand that he is my friend and I love him dearly and will defend his right to love who he chooses.






33 comments:

  1. I can't imagine being violently assaulted for something I have no control over. As far as I'm concerned, who am I to deny somebody else's rights?What kind of person would I be if I denied somebody's happiness out of hate or spite? I know the answer to that, I'd be a pretty fucking awful human being. Voting is so important.

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    1. The older I get, the more people scare me. Voting is SO important. I feel grateful as a woman and as someone not born in this country, that I have that right. It's not something I take lightly and I'm glad you don't either.

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  2. My cousin is gay and it kills me to think that when he finally falls in love, that he won't have the same right as I do to marry. That makes no sense in the United States of America, where we espouse "equall rights for all.". Thank God he's never been attacked like your friend was, though. Sorry that happened to him!

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    1. I suppose as long as he's good with leaving on the East Coast, specifically Maine or Maryland, he'll be just fine. O_o

      This nation has come a long way but there's still a long way to go.

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  3. Oh my goodness, that's awful. I don't really understand how people can be so cruel. I might not agree with his choice (is being gay a choice? IDK... apparently I don't understand being gay, either), but I do know that we're supposed to love our fellow men. To me, that is like assaulting an alcoholic or a chain smoker because they drink or smoke. It just doesn't make sense. Anyway. That's my two cents.

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    1. I hate feeling so conflicted. Thanks for sharing your two cents Alyx.

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  4. I have several gay friends and it breaks my heart when I hear the stories of bullying, discrimination and abuse they have encountered from ingnorant people.
    The hate needs to stop.

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  5. I don't understand why anyone cares where or how two consenting adults choose to rub their crotch bits. Also, I love your labels and "she's one hell of a 5". You're generous to give her a mediocre rating.
    Hooray! The election season is almost over! No more pandering (yeah right).

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    1. Ugh, your poor friend! And I concur with everything Pickleope is saying.

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    2. Mediocre? I gave her a 5 out of 10. Which is 50%. Which is an F. Which means FAIL. SHE FAILED. Or did I fail because I'm clearly still bugged?

      If only November 6th meant it was actually over. *sigh*

      And Gia, I find myself doing that often. Agreeing with Pickleope. Much to my chagrin.

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  6. It's terrible how mean people can be. I feel so bad for your friend.

    P.S. I could use a Bloody Mary right now. I LOVE those. Have you ever had a red beer?

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    1. Sadly, you know first hand all about people being nasty for their own unfathomable reasons.

      They really are delicious aren't they? Red beer? Never heard of it. Not a fan of beer but since it's got "red" in it, it may be looking into. ;)

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  7. I don't understand being gay but neither do I understand people who feel they have the right to interfere in other people's sex lives. As long as it is between consenting adults and not breaking the law then it is nobody else's damn business.

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    1. I don't understand why that's so hard to understand!

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  8. I'm as liberal in many respects as any and yet as conservative in other respects... so I am really conflicted over the gay rights thing.. I agree with Dawn in that I don't understand being gay, and yet I do understand love and the desires of the human heart and the fact we can't control our heart. Just as I believe love and sex are two totally different things, ignorance and stupidity are two COMPLETELY different issues.
    But regardless of all that.. I have spent 34 years of my life in service to my fellow man and the ONLY reason ANYONE has to harm another is to defend themselves or others from being injuried.
    Assualting someone over the color of their skin, their sex, the nation of origin, their religous beliefs or their sexual orientation is just flat WRONG..

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    1. I'm sure you more than most people, have seen the harm that hatred can cause.

      Ignorance and stupidity being separate issues? That took me a minute but yeah, you're absolutely right.

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  9. Haters suck donkey balls. And by donkey balls, I mean donkey balls.

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    1. Donkey balls are dirty. And by dirty I mean gross. And by gross I mean, I think you're mocking me.

      Ass.

      And by ass I mean donkey.

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  10. WOW! I dont understand being gay either, but I do have several gay friends...
    My thing is...what you do in your bedroom is your business...
    Dont flaunt it in my face. Period. Whether you are straight, gay, bisexual, or asexual. I dont care!!
    Now about rights, I think everyone has the right to make their choices WITHOUT being physically or verbally attacked.

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    1. I don't want to see overly sexual displays of affection from ANYONE. Gay or straight.

      I agree about people's rights. I also think some people have the right to rot in prison for trying to brain others over the head for thinking they had a right to live their own life.

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  11. I have a gay cousin, but I'm not Christian. I don't care why people are the way they are, and think everyone should have equal rights and protections under the law. I hope that someday my cousin is able to marry someone he loves and raise a family together because he's a good guy and would make a gret dad.

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    1. Just because someone is in love with another human being and is a good person and would make a great Father, doesn't mean they have the right to any of that if they're offending others Christian sensibilities.

      O_o


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  12. I hate hate. I don't understand hate like that, for people you don't even know anything about except the status of their sexuality. What a shitty thing to have happened to your friend... I see it in my kids, the generational, general acceptance of people (PEOPLE) that are different (as of course everyone is, regardless of sexual preference). I love to see the shift, the slow move towards acceptance (wish it wasn't so slow), it makes me feel a little bit hopeful.

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    1. YES! It's slow but it's definite progress. When you consider where this country was just 50 years ago, we're progressing. Slowly but surely.

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  13. Running into old flames is so insulting. Don't they know they are supposed to die of heartbreak once I am gone? So thoughtless.

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    1. FINALLY!!! Someone got what this post was ACTUALLY about. ;)

      I'm not really sure where they went wrong, not realizing we were the best things that would ever happen in their poor, miserable, petty little existence.

      Morons.

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  14. Love your post here for many reasons. Mostly because I've had that same type of run in with my now husband and one of his then friends back in college. -_-

    I want my children to grow up in a place without hate. Unfortunately, I really don't think that this will be possible, and that makes my heart sad. Thanks for opening up the conversation!

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    1. I HATE those run-ins. Although, sounds like it turned out pretty well in your case.

      There will never be an absence of hate because there always has to be opposition. Luckily, there will be people like you who teach their children tolerance and love to offset the hate.

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  15. Totally with you, once again- I don't understand it, but it's not for me to judge.
    Also, my gay friends are awesome and so kind to me. Kinder- in many cases- than most of my straight friends.

    Gah! I hate running into exes! It's fantastic when they downgrade though, no?
    ;)

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    1. OH man. So many things I want to say about some of my straight "friends" but I won't. This is me in rare form attempting to refrain. It's physically painful right now. Okay, more mentally painful. But whatev's.

      Not sure how much the downgrade helps. If they rejected me for THAT? What does that really say? Boys are dumb. The end.

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  16. Also the spoke of Hollywood, where Hollywood writers seemed to put a gay person on every single sit-com and at least one scene or character in every single movie - stating that wasn't right because there just are not that many gay citizens in our country by proportion. Then they spoke of the ""gay agenda" in our politics in Washington DC, in our entertainment manufacturing, at our college campuses, and claiming that the GLBT crowd was preying on adolescents who are going through their own hormonal awakenings, thus, in a way brainwashing them as they are confused about the changes in their own bodies.

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